The most valuable people in your community aren't getting enough of your attention

Here’s something I’ve been sitting with lately, Reader

In every community — no matter the size, the niche, the platform — there are concentric circles of connection.

At the center: you.

Then there’s the ring just outside you. The people who show up every. single. time. The founding members still paying after two years. The ones who jump into every thread, who DM you when you launch something new, who somehow always seem to know what your community needs before you do.

I call them the inner circle.

Outside of them are the “friends” — people you know by name, who have real connections inside the space. Then the acquaintances. Then the newer folks still finding their footing. And then, out past all of them, the great wide open — future members who don’t even know you exist yet.

Here’s the thing most founders don’t realize:

As your community grows, the inner circle becomes a smaller percentage of the whole. But it never becomes a smaller percentage of the value - it COMPOUNDS.

Your inner circle is simultaneously:

• Your most reliable source of word-of-mouth growth
• Your most honest source of community intelligence
• Your most likely source of emerging leaders
• Your highest-retention group
• The people whose presence makes your culture feel like something

And most of the time?

We’re not doing much with them.

Not because we don’t care. But because there’s no system. No ritual.

No intentional structure that says: these people matter, and here’s how we show it.

This week I want to talk about what happens when you actually pay attention to your inner circle — and the surprisingly simple lever that activates them.

Because it’s not complicated. And the results compound in ways I genuinely didn’t expect until I’d seen it work dozens of times across communities of every shape and size.

More on that tomorrow.

Starlight

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P.S. The short version, in case you skimmed:

Your inner circle doesn’t want discounts or freebies. They want proximity.
And giving it to them intentionally is one of the highest-leverage moves available to any community leader.

That’s what this week is about. Scroll back up — it’s worth the full read 👆